Lesbian Dating 101

Dear Bloggers, 
I am 23 years old, and living in a very small town (5200 people) and I am a lesbian... 
Let me just stray away from that for a moment and explain some things, as I am sure you are all wondering the same thing, "a single mom,  but a lesbian, uhhh?" Well, actually it's quite simple. I started by liking girls when I was younger... had my first encounter at 14 and continued, until I was in high school when I starting having boyfriends. Yes, maybe I was attracted to the guys I dated, and only one, did I see a future with (who has a baby now, who is sooo flipping adorable!!), but I knew, deep down in my heart of hearts, that women were what made my heart melt and made my stomach flutter. I didn't sleep with a guy until I was almost 17, but did with girls from 14, onward. When I had my daughter, at 20 years old, I then decided "hey, I got what I wanted, I can go through the rest of my life being me!" and haven't looked back since. 
Sooo, back to what I was saying.. in order for me to find lesbians - even just to talk to or be friends with - I have to use facebook groups and dating sites (and possibly blogs? hehe). 
I find that all lesbians on them are the same - only care about looks (what's a personality again? something to do with your boobs? no?).. it's exhausting writing these nice, long messages to people, and having them completely ignore it (or end up messaging your much prettier, much skinnier best friend). 
The other day on Facebook I found this page - Lesbian BBM Pin Swap... I think it is an AMAZING idea! That way, it's not giving out your number to uhauling psycho chicks, and you only share what you want. It's a way to get to know each other without judgement (unless you are an annoying bitch, who likes to send 5000 messages separately instead of all in one long message, or u tipe lyk dis)
I feel there aren't enough ways for lesbians to get together... yeah okay, Dinah Shore... but do I sound American to you, eh ?
Also, what's the deal with lesbian ex's ? After you break up, still trying to get you to do what the want, when they want? Excuse me ? "Dobby has no master. Dobby is a free elf!" thank you very much. We broke up, leave me be. You do what you gotta do, and I'm going to go do me.